Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Decision Decision Decision

Okay now… this is what bothering me at the moment… since there are so may things happening now, My Kai yeah have the urge to get me back to Malaysia for good… as most of you know how much I don’t really want to stay in Malaysia for good, unless there is special reason right?

So he came up with few deals with me…

Option 1: I go back Malaysia straight away without consider anything, work for him and take over his business when he almost retires…

Option 2: I stay in Australia and make sure I will be back to Malaysia for holidays every 6 months…

Option 3: he will grant me a chance to study in UK for 4 years then after 4 years I have to go back Malaysia for good…

Every option has their pros and cons, so I am a bit being bothered last night… had a personal problem occurred too… so scratching my head hard thinking what I should do next… most of my friends asked me to go for option 3, but I don’t feel like studying anymore… I want to explore more… what should I do?

posted by MunMun @ 5/23/2006 06:16:00 PM  

11 Comments:

  • At Tuesday, May 23, 2006 6:28:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    hmmm.... what ever the decision u make, i'm sure it'll be the best one. no one can force u to do things if u do not wish to do them.

    Only bare in mind one thing..... the decision u make.... is it gonna benefit u or also ur kai yeh? Think carefully of how u wanna lead ur life... i'm sure u will think of a decision. What we tell you or advise u can only be a guideline.... we will not know how or what u r actually thinking.

    So to end this, have faith in urself... get a goodnite sleep.... and u'll come up with something ;)

     

  • At Tuesday, May 23, 2006 6:33:00 PM, Blogger MunMun said…

    hehe i can't sleep when my brain working too hard LOL

     

  • At Tuesday, May 23, 2006 10:14:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    *Puts haggling hat on.*

    Well well, since you don't want to stay in Malaysia forever, option 1 and 3 are straight out of the consideration.

    The only thing left is to make the deal sweeter. Tell him that you will go back every 6 months as best as you can. This leaves you some room if you really cannot or do not want to go back.

    Second, have him pay ALL your expenses while you are back in Malaysia. This includes airfares, accommodation, food, etc etc you know what I mean. (Best way to do this is to have him transfer money to you beforehand, and you will stay in Malaysia for as long the money allows you.)

    Lastly, you will decide how long you will stay in Malaysia. (So yeah if you want to go back for a weekend it's not your money anyway.)

    If he cannot agree to these terms, then tell him you cannot accept his demand. He cannot possibly force you to go anywhere you do not want. These are reasonable terms considering the nature of his demand.

    If you need any follow up suggestions, I have a lot in mind.

     

  • At Tuesday, May 23, 2006 11:02:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    hm... lg a..er.. i think i think ho.. if i'm were u.. i might choose option 2.. coz i don wan to to stay long in malaysia.. so i rather.. back to malaysia every 6 month..(the espenses for sure, i'm not the one who pay for it =P) ahhah...

    Option 3 not bad also, using 4 years time to explore more.. many things will happend in 4 years time.. maybe ur thinking will diffrent also?!

     

  • At Wednesday, May 24, 2006 1:10:00 AM, Blogger Bao Hui said…

    wow. traveller.
    nice trickS!

     

  • At Wednesday, May 24, 2006 4:23:00 PM, Blogger MunMun said…

    Ken Ken... he is not my money dispenser le... and I dun think he should take the responsiblity to look after me...

    I think I am big enough to handle my life myself... they must have their reasons why they want me to go back...

    err what else... I cant think of any now... will come back and type again later hehe

     

  • At Wednesday, May 24, 2006 4:24:00 PM, Blogger MunMun said…

    lp ar... option 3 memang tempting me la... but i dun have the mood to study and if i choose option 3 i am just wasting the money nia hehe.. anyway I am still thinking la... see how la...

     

  • At Wednesday, May 24, 2006 4:25:00 PM, Blogger MunMun said…

    rach... not a good one le LOL

     

  • At Wednesday, May 24, 2006 7:22:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    This is not about him being your money dispenser. This is about a third party attempting to exert control over you.

    If you truly think you're, so-to-speak, "big enough" for yourself and you can take care of yourself, then you should either:

    A) Make a demand for compensation for inconveniencing your personal life (which is essentially what I commented earlier). This is by no chance treating him as your money dispenser (compare a work compensation). One possible side effect is that he will find your demand for compensation too rich for his bloody and thus will stop demanding from you again.

    B) Ask him to a public setting, sit down and talk things over like civilised people. Tell him that he cannot push you around without giving reasons. Demand to know his motive. If he gives good reason (note: not threats, that's just uncivilised) then you can consider.

    These are my suggestions to you. They are in no way impartial. In the end you still have to observe all aspects affecting your decision making process because you are the only one who knows everything regarding it.

     

  • At Thursday, May 25, 2006 4:36:00 AM, Blogger MunMun said…

    yes, he is the third party in my life... but for the past few years... he had been spending more than 600k for me... he got no blood relation to me at all... I really appreciate what he had done to me and I can only take this chance to pay back what he had gave to me and not taking things for granted...

    nothing in life is convenience in all aspect... as i said they must have their reason in doing anything... it might be blamed for decided to let me stay here from those who have blood relation to me? I haven't been back for 4 years (not including my mum's wedding, that is too short to count) so it's hard for him too...

    as far a i think is he is trying to come up with all the conditions or deal with me to attract me back... so i dun see any harm at all...

     

  • At Thursday, May 25, 2006 2:25:00 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    You have a reason to believe what you believe. I don't know it and I won't pretend to know it. If you think gratitude alone more than outweighs what you wish, and that there will be no other way to repay him, by all means you're free to decide for yourself.

    Just bear in mind that what I have suggested is not to ask you to be ungrateful or to take his help for granted. Rather, it is to lead to the truth and achieve a compromise between what you want and what he wants.

    Is your interpretation of what he thinks really what he thinks?

    Is your interpretation of what you think, really what you think?

     

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